Off to a good morning this morning. I didn't get a chance to work out, but I did wake up feeling good. I woke up with my wife on my mind. She is in graduate school and she has class twice a week. Her classes are evening classes so she gets home pretty late and sometimes I don't get to see her. Well, last night was one of those nights. She got home late, came in spoke, and went right to bed. I figured she was tired, so I didn't bother her. I just sat back and put myself in her shoes. I took a mental trip to the classroom and tried to teach first graders for a few hours. Then I went to college and sat in a classroom and listend to a professor babble about educational issues. After my mental trip in her shoes, I then asked myself, "would I feel like being bothered after a long day like that?" After careful consideration, I wouldn't. I would want to relax and not worry about doing anything.
I took myself out of the equation and made it all about her. When I got up this morning with her still on my mind, I said that I was going to do something nice for her. Instead of taking my daily jog, I went by the grocery store and bought a few roses in a vase and took them to her.
This is what life is all about. Making a sacrifice for someone else. There is no fun in life when all you think about is yourself. The true enjoyment comes from taking from you to give to someone else. I took away my run to give my wife a little smile. Are they equal? According to society, they are not, but society doesn't really know too much about that agape love. Love is not equal and it knows of no 50/50. All love knows is how to give. If we focus on giving and don't worry about recieiving, our reception will become so great that it will almost be overwhelming. So, if you have a spouse or significant other and they are busy all the time doing something positive and trying to better themselves, take a step back and take a mental journey in their shoes and you will realize why they act the way that they do...they are DRAINED! So instead of complain about what they are not doing, start doing for them. Pick up the slack. And not only pick up the slack, but comfort them in a way that they know they have a winner on their side in spite of the neglect that has been going on. Always remember just as much as you miss them, they miss you too. Just as much as you want whatever it is from them, they want it from you. They are just trying to do something to make life better for themselves which will advertently make life better for you!
"Give to give, not to receive"
-K.J Swint
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