Today, I woke up with an interesting thought on my mind. I have had this thought for quite some time now, but today I finally decided to write about it. Well, it's about a dog. To be more specific my dog. Everyday when I come home, my dog greets me at the door. He sniffs me to see where I've been and then he runs around because he is so excited to see me. No matter what I did to him the night before, he always greets me at the door.
I think this is how we should be about the people that we truly love, especially those that we live with. We should be excited to see them everyday, even if they did something to hurt us. Instead of doing this, we want to try to make things more complicated than they already are. We want to hold grudges and wait for the other person to take actions in order to make things right. Why wait for someone else to take action when you can take it yourself? You wouldn't wait for someone to tell you to go and get a million dollars if you knew you could get it on your own. Now I will be the first to admit that I am one of these people that I am talking about. I am not ashamed to admit to my faults because I want to become as faultless as I can possibly be. They say admitting is the first step to getting over something. I don't know if this is true, but I will damn sho' try it if it will make life for me and my wife better.
Women for years have called men dogs for the way that they act, but I think it's time to turn that description around. When they speak of comparing a man to a dog from now on, they should be referring to the greeting that a dog gives its owner. They should enjoy calling a man a dog because there is no love and affection like a dogs love and affection, simple because you know without a shadow of a doubt that it's genuine. Give "the dog effect" a try.
"Whenever you don't know what to do...love. It never fails"-K.J Swint
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 55
It's very ironic that I spoke about my coach in my blog and I run into one of them while I was at work yesterday. We looked at each other and laughed and talked about the good ol days when all he made us do was run. I told him that I still have my same work ethics that I had in high school because of the discipline he instilled in me. After we finished talking I just started reminiscing about how hard I worked in high school to get on the basketball team. It was amazing. Then I started thinking about how much I changed when all of this happened. I went from a teenager that tried to defy everything that most adults told me to a determined young man who's ambitions were through the roof. But none of this happened over night.
When I was in middle school, I became very defiant. I wanted to do everything my way. I didn't want to listen to my great grandmother nor did I want to listen to my uncle. Well, me and my great grandmother got into an argument just about everyday. She wanted me to do things and I didn't want to do them. She didn't want me to play basketball and this was the ultimate. I went crazy. I didn't do my work. I made all F's on my report card. And I did all this to get back at her and all of the people who were trying to keep me in line. This would really make her angry. She would sit down in her favorite chair and just cry sometimes. As much as I wanted to make her angry, I couldn't stand to see her cry. One day she sat me down and told me that she was through with me. She said that she had washed her hands and now it was in the hands on the man. She was a very spiritual lady. She made sure that me and my uncle went to church EVERY sunday. She would tell us that the only way that she would let us stay home was if we were crying blood. One morning I tried to cry blood by using ketchup as tears. It didn't work. When she told me she washed her hands, I didn't pay any attention to it, but it was something different about her demeanor. It was almost as if a weight had been lifted from her and she was now free. She never fussed at me again nor did she argue with me about anything I wanted to do.
Little did I know that my life was about to change. When she had done all that she could, she told God, "it's now your turn." I was entering high school and I wanted to play ball bad. SHe had denied me in middle school, but this time she was ok with it. I didn't know what I was about to get myself into but I know that I wanted to play. My defiance had become a stepping stone instead of an obstacle. It made me push harder in practice and I was not about to quit because i was too stubborn for that. I never wanted anyone to get the best of me. Well, it paid off. I made the team and ended up being a damn good player. But basketball wasn't what made me a better person it was the training for it that did.
When my great grandmother had done all that she could, she then let God do the rest. This is how we have to be in our lives. Once we give all that we can give and a change has not happened; it's then time to put it in God's hands. I think that we don't realize that we have to put in sometimes in order for God to put up and put out. He wants to see how much we will put in and also if we will come to him for help. I am not a preacher nor do I declare myself a scholar in the spiritual area but I do believe this is how it is. I can only speak from experience. I turned out to be a pretty good guy, but only because my great grandmother did her part and then she let God do his part. They call him the father, so I guess my great grandmother told him to do his fatherly duties and I must admit, he did his part...now will you do yours?
"A whole is nothing without pieces"-K.J Swint
When I was in middle school, I became very defiant. I wanted to do everything my way. I didn't want to listen to my great grandmother nor did I want to listen to my uncle. Well, me and my great grandmother got into an argument just about everyday. She wanted me to do things and I didn't want to do them. She didn't want me to play basketball and this was the ultimate. I went crazy. I didn't do my work. I made all F's on my report card. And I did all this to get back at her and all of the people who were trying to keep me in line. This would really make her angry. She would sit down in her favorite chair and just cry sometimes. As much as I wanted to make her angry, I couldn't stand to see her cry. One day she sat me down and told me that she was through with me. She said that she had washed her hands and now it was in the hands on the man. She was a very spiritual lady. She made sure that me and my uncle went to church EVERY sunday. She would tell us that the only way that she would let us stay home was if we were crying blood. One morning I tried to cry blood by using ketchup as tears. It didn't work. When she told me she washed her hands, I didn't pay any attention to it, but it was something different about her demeanor. It was almost as if a weight had been lifted from her and she was now free. She never fussed at me again nor did she argue with me about anything I wanted to do.
Little did I know that my life was about to change. When she had done all that she could, she told God, "it's now your turn." I was entering high school and I wanted to play ball bad. SHe had denied me in middle school, but this time she was ok with it. I didn't know what I was about to get myself into but I know that I wanted to play. My defiance had become a stepping stone instead of an obstacle. It made me push harder in practice and I was not about to quit because i was too stubborn for that. I never wanted anyone to get the best of me. Well, it paid off. I made the team and ended up being a damn good player. But basketball wasn't what made me a better person it was the training for it that did.
When my great grandmother had done all that she could, she then let God do the rest. This is how we have to be in our lives. Once we give all that we can give and a change has not happened; it's then time to put it in God's hands. I think that we don't realize that we have to put in sometimes in order for God to put up and put out. He wants to see how much we will put in and also if we will come to him for help. I am not a preacher nor do I declare myself a scholar in the spiritual area but I do believe this is how it is. I can only speak from experience. I turned out to be a pretty good guy, but only because my great grandmother did her part and then she let God do his part. They call him the father, so I guess my great grandmother told him to do his fatherly duties and I must admit, he did his part...now will you do yours?
"A whole is nothing without pieces"-K.J Swint
Thursday, December 16, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 54
Well, I am glad to say that I am still on it. This has been a good week. I have made sacrifices and they have paid off. I have taken advantage of all my free time and in the midst of it all, I still made time for my wife. I planned my extra time around her schedule. I made sure when I was going to have a late night, the late night was one where she was going to have a late night as well. I didn't get up earlier than her but rather when she got up. I cancelled one of my appointments yesterday so that I could clean up the house for our guest we are having over tomorrow. I knew that if I did it ahead of time, this would ease her mind. This is what life is all about-making sacrifices for the one that you love. This is what truly makes me happy. Knowing that I have given my all and it being well worth it is what it is all about!
After I had finished cleaning the house, I sat down to talk to my wife. We starting talking and I asked her a question. I asked her, "why do we wait for things to change when we have the ability to change it and make our life better?" She paused for a minute and said, "I don't know." This question has been pondering me for a while now. The reason being is because when I talk to people and they tell me about the problems that they are having, I notice that by the end of the conversation they have told me the way that they can solve it but don't want to do it because they are waiting for the other person to make a move. Doesn't this seem to be a little confusing? If a person knew how to get a million dollars would they wait for someone to give it to them knowing that they can go get it themselves? This is the way I look at it. If you can make yourself and others happy by changing something, go ahead and change it and don't wait on someone to come change it for you.
Me and my wife had a disagreement, a bad disagreement and she was the one that was in the wrong. She and I both came to the conclusion that she was wrong. I knew she felt bad and even though she was wrong and I was hurt by it, I didn't let it stop me from making sure that her feelings were not totally destroyed by this. I sent her flowers everyday for the rest of the week. This took her off guard and she didn't understand why I would be sending her flowers when she was wrong. She figured that she should be the one sending flowers to me. In the world that we live in, she was right. But I believe in a different type of love than the love that you see on tv or see in the street. I believe in a type of love that doesn't wait on someone else to make things happen. I believe in a love that goes beyond what society thinks and make its own thoughts. I believe in true love. The love that loves regardless of what others think or say.
This is the same love that made Jesus turn the other cheek as he knew Judas would betray him. This is the same love that made Jesus asked for forgiveness of those that were trying and succeeded at killing him.
Don't wait on someone else to make you happy or make something happen for you. Let go of your pride and let love take over. You will find out that life is easier when this happens. It doesn't make any sense to be miserable when you have the ability to be happy.
"If misery loves company, then what does happiness love?...YOU-get with it"-K.J Swint
After I had finished cleaning the house, I sat down to talk to my wife. We starting talking and I asked her a question. I asked her, "why do we wait for things to change when we have the ability to change it and make our life better?" She paused for a minute and said, "I don't know." This question has been pondering me for a while now. The reason being is because when I talk to people and they tell me about the problems that they are having, I notice that by the end of the conversation they have told me the way that they can solve it but don't want to do it because they are waiting for the other person to make a move. Doesn't this seem to be a little confusing? If a person knew how to get a million dollars would they wait for someone to give it to them knowing that they can go get it themselves? This is the way I look at it. If you can make yourself and others happy by changing something, go ahead and change it and don't wait on someone to come change it for you.
Me and my wife had a disagreement, a bad disagreement and she was the one that was in the wrong. She and I both came to the conclusion that she was wrong. I knew she felt bad and even though she was wrong and I was hurt by it, I didn't let it stop me from making sure that her feelings were not totally destroyed by this. I sent her flowers everyday for the rest of the week. This took her off guard and she didn't understand why I would be sending her flowers when she was wrong. She figured that she should be the one sending flowers to me. In the world that we live in, she was right. But I believe in a different type of love than the love that you see on tv or see in the street. I believe in a type of love that doesn't wait on someone else to make things happen. I believe in a love that goes beyond what society thinks and make its own thoughts. I believe in true love. The love that loves regardless of what others think or say.
This is the same love that made Jesus turn the other cheek as he knew Judas would betray him. This is the same love that made Jesus asked for forgiveness of those that were trying and succeeded at killing him.
Don't wait on someone else to make you happy or make something happen for you. Let go of your pride and let love take over. You will find out that life is easier when this happens. It doesn't make any sense to be miserable when you have the ability to be happy.
"If misery loves company, then what does happiness love?...YOU-get with it"-K.J Swint
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 53
For the past few days, I have really been on it! I have gotten up early and went to bed late trying to make things happen for me. After today, I will be finished with one of the web pages that I am designing. I learned in college that you have to put in work and time if you want to get things done. I take this same concept with anything I do in life. It started in high school my sophomore year. My high school basketball coach told me to my face that I would never play for him because I was too skinny. I was hurt when he told me and I thought if the coach told me this, then I didn't have a chance in hell to play on the team. This thought lasted about a day and then I made up in my mind that I would make him eat those words. I was determined to make him want me to play for him. This was at the end of my sophomore year and school was about to be over. That summer, I discovered who Kelvin J. Swint really was. I didn't have a bike, so I borrowed my cousins (Genovia, thanks for the wheels!) bike which was a girl bike and I rode it everyday wherever I went. My daily routine consisted of riding the bike to the school, working out in the weight room,going back home for lunch (which consisted of two ham sandwiches and a apple) and then back to the school to play ball. Then at night, I would lift weights again and do push-ups before I went to bed. I did this everyday for two months. While I was at the school I would see the coach in passing and I wouldn't say a word to him. I was waiting for him to just see me in action.
My junior year was beginning and it was tryout time. The first 3 weeks of practice consisted of nothing but running. Well, I was well conditioned because I had been riding at least 10 miles a day on a bike during the summer. The running he had us doing was a cake walk to me. I finished before everyone else and I was not tired. This was my time to shine. I had worked extra hard and now it was time to reap the benefits. After every exercise, I would laugh and ask him is that all he had. I am not a cocky person, but I do believe in rewarding yourself if you have worked hard-this was my reward. He saw that he couldn't shake me in the conditioning area so he figured he would get me on the court. After the 3 weeks of running, it was time to start playing. We hit the floor and I was ready. What I didn't know was that by me doing all that I had done I was actually making myself a better ball player without using the ball a lot. I was faster and my endurance was unbelievable. My defense was impeccable. I was guarding guys that were ranked in the state and I was a nobody. It was like a dream come true. But then something else happened. We were running drills and on a fast break, I got the ball and jumped to make a lay-up and I noticed that I didn't stop going up. I was so high in the air that I scared myself, so I did the only thing I could do, I dunked the ball. Everyone in the gym was amazed. Not only because I dunked, but because of how high I jumped. I didn't know I had this ability. this was all new to me. But it all came from pushing myself to a limit that was unlimited. After practice was over, coach sat us down to talk to us about our training. He made this long speech and at the end he said, "you all had the whole summer, to practice and get ready for the season. Did you all do it? No you didn't because I can see it on the court. The only person that has improved himself is Swint." When he said this, I thought I would be happy and have that I told you smurk on my face, but I didn't. My mind was on another level. I was determined just to finish what I started. This was not about proving something to the coach, it was about proving something to myself.
This is how I treat everything in my life. My marriage, my goals and my obstacles. I am not out to prove anything to anyone but myself. I will wake up early and stay up late to make things better for me and my wife. Even if she doesn't understand what I am doing, it doesn't matter. It's not about her, it's about doing what I need to do to make things happen. I have to do what God has given me the ability to do. It's either I listen to her or listen to God...I think God knows best because he would not let me do anything crazy to harm our marriage. I don't care what others are doing or how they are doing it, I am my own person, I make things happen in my life. Like I said yesterday, I paint my own picture.
Pick up your paint brush and paint the picture that you want; not what everyone else is painting. Forget about what others think. Forget about what others may say or are saying. This is your life; live it like you want. You only get one life, but several chances to live it to the fullest. Take advantage of the best gift that God has ever given us. I know I am!
"You only have one life but several chances to live it to the fullest; make one of those chances now"-K.J Swint
My junior year was beginning and it was tryout time. The first 3 weeks of practice consisted of nothing but running. Well, I was well conditioned because I had been riding at least 10 miles a day on a bike during the summer. The running he had us doing was a cake walk to me. I finished before everyone else and I was not tired. This was my time to shine. I had worked extra hard and now it was time to reap the benefits. After every exercise, I would laugh and ask him is that all he had. I am not a cocky person, but I do believe in rewarding yourself if you have worked hard-this was my reward. He saw that he couldn't shake me in the conditioning area so he figured he would get me on the court. After the 3 weeks of running, it was time to start playing. We hit the floor and I was ready. What I didn't know was that by me doing all that I had done I was actually making myself a better ball player without using the ball a lot. I was faster and my endurance was unbelievable. My defense was impeccable. I was guarding guys that were ranked in the state and I was a nobody. It was like a dream come true. But then something else happened. We were running drills and on a fast break, I got the ball and jumped to make a lay-up and I noticed that I didn't stop going up. I was so high in the air that I scared myself, so I did the only thing I could do, I dunked the ball. Everyone in the gym was amazed. Not only because I dunked, but because of how high I jumped. I didn't know I had this ability. this was all new to me. But it all came from pushing myself to a limit that was unlimited. After practice was over, coach sat us down to talk to us about our training. He made this long speech and at the end he said, "you all had the whole summer, to practice and get ready for the season. Did you all do it? No you didn't because I can see it on the court. The only person that has improved himself is Swint." When he said this, I thought I would be happy and have that I told you smurk on my face, but I didn't. My mind was on another level. I was determined just to finish what I started. This was not about proving something to the coach, it was about proving something to myself.
This is how I treat everything in my life. My marriage, my goals and my obstacles. I am not out to prove anything to anyone but myself. I will wake up early and stay up late to make things better for me and my wife. Even if she doesn't understand what I am doing, it doesn't matter. It's not about her, it's about doing what I need to do to make things happen. I have to do what God has given me the ability to do. It's either I listen to her or listen to God...I think God knows best because he would not let me do anything crazy to harm our marriage. I don't care what others are doing or how they are doing it, I am my own person, I make things happen in my life. Like I said yesterday, I paint my own picture.
Pick up your paint brush and paint the picture that you want; not what everyone else is painting. Forget about what others think. Forget about what others may say or are saying. This is your life; live it like you want. You only get one life, but several chances to live it to the fullest. Take advantage of the best gift that God has ever given us. I know I am!
"You only have one life but several chances to live it to the fullest; make one of those chances now"-K.J Swint
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 52
For the past few days I have been on top of my game. I have been diligently working on my web pages and my book. In the mean time I have been maintaining my marriage. I leave the house early enough to work until I have to go to work and then when I get off I work for a while and then it's time for the wife. I never let my work get in the way of spending time with my wife. Just like the other day, I was at work and I was checking my bank account and I noticed that I had saved a few dollars by not eating out as much as I use to. Instead of going out and getting something for myself, I decided that I would get her something. There were some shoes I had been watching since the summer that I wanted to get for her, but I had other things to do so I just put it off. Well, now was the time to get those shoes. I went in and I was hoping that they had them in her size and low and behold, they did! They were a tad bit pricey, but it didn't matter because I had saved for it. I got the shoes and took them home to her. She was a bit taken because it's so close to Christmas and she was receiving a gift. She asked me was it a Christmas gift and Itold her no. I told her that it was just a gift that I wanted to give her. I wanted her to know that I didn't have to wait for Christmas to give her a gift-I could do it any time I want. I don't let days determine when I give her gifts, that's why I do it all year long.
It's been kind of hard for me throughout my life because I have always been different. No one really understands me. Most of the time they think that there is a motive behind the way I am. There is no motive, but there is a reason. You see, I lost my mother when I was six years of age. This was devastating itself but to make things worse, she died on Christmas Eve. Imagine a kid waking up on Christmas to find out that his mother has passed away and you really don't know what's going on at that age but you do know that everyone is sad and that's enough. But I did have someone to fall upon and that was my great grandmother, She raised me to be the man that I am today. She taught me life lessons, even though all she had was a six grade education. I have never met anyone like her in my life. The one thing that sticks out in my mind is something she told me when I was about in the third grade. I was sitting at the table doing my homework and i was looking a little frustrated as if I just couldn't get what I was doing. Well, I was working on my multiplication problems. She looked at the book and looked at me and sat down. She had this blank look on her face and I knew she was about to tell me something. She said to me, "Baby, momma can't help you with your homework, so you need to learn as much as you can while you are at school." It was an amazing moment because it was almost as if I knew exactly what she was saying at that age. From that point on I always made sure I got a clear understanding of everything before I left school. I even did my homework at school just in case I had any problems. After that day, she never said anything else about my homework. It was like she knew that I would make it happen.
But then, something happened. Later on in life, my junior year in high school, she passed away. I thought my life was over. I didn't want to do anything because everything that I was doing was for her. She was my world. I was lost for about a week and then she came to me in a dream and told me that she wanted me to live life like she taught me. From that moment on I made a vow to always treat women like they were queens because that is how I treated her. We had our ups and downs, but in the end I made sure she was taken care of. I told myself that I would be there for women even if they didn't know me. If they were down, I would be the one to pick them up. If they needed help, I would be the one to help them. Little did I know that this would cause problems for me in my personal life as well as my work life. Whenever I would see a woman down, I would buy them flowers or a card or their favorite snack; or if they got a promotion r even on Valentine’s Day if they didn't have a significant other. I was just trying to be nice. I was trying to be that, "pick me upper" for a moment. This came back to haunt me. Rumors would go around the office that I was trying to "get with" the women that I did this for. I was even accused of having an affair with a woman and they threatened to fire me. All of this was done just because I was being a nice man. But did it stop me, NOPE. I made a vow to myself and to my great grandmother. I would rather get fired for being nice than to stop being nice. That's just how she raised me, stand for what you believe in and I believed in her. Oh, and I forget to mention that my relationships. Let’s just say that the women didn't like the idea of me giving another woman flowers or anything of that nature. Did it stop me, NOPE. I made a promise and I was going to keep it.
Sometimes you have to continue to be yourself regardless of what others say or do. When you have right in your heart and others see wrong, you have to go with your heart. It may hurt and you may get ridiculed, but its well worth it when that person comes back to you and says, "Thank you. You changed my life." To me there are no rules when it comes to being nice. That's why I bought my wife shoes days before Christmas. I don't have to wait for a certain day to give her gifts. I can do it any day. I am not consumed nor will I ever e consumed by what should be when I can make it the way I want it to be. My marriage and my life are like a blank canvas everyday and I plan on painting the picture I want each morning I wake up. I refuse to wait on a day or some special occasion before I can do things that I want to do. God made the rules and those are the only rules I plan on following. As long as they are within his guidelines, I am fine. When he tells me to start giving gifts on certain occasions only, that's when I will do it...until then, I am my own rule maker in my life and in my marriage.
"Happiness is not defined by what you do, but how you feel when it's done"-K.J Swint
It's been kind of hard for me throughout my life because I have always been different. No one really understands me. Most of the time they think that there is a motive behind the way I am. There is no motive, but there is a reason. You see, I lost my mother when I was six years of age. This was devastating itself but to make things worse, she died on Christmas Eve. Imagine a kid waking up on Christmas to find out that his mother has passed away and you really don't know what's going on at that age but you do know that everyone is sad and that's enough. But I did have someone to fall upon and that was my great grandmother, She raised me to be the man that I am today. She taught me life lessons, even though all she had was a six grade education. I have never met anyone like her in my life. The one thing that sticks out in my mind is something she told me when I was about in the third grade. I was sitting at the table doing my homework and i was looking a little frustrated as if I just couldn't get what I was doing. Well, I was working on my multiplication problems. She looked at the book and looked at me and sat down. She had this blank look on her face and I knew she was about to tell me something. She said to me, "Baby, momma can't help you with your homework, so you need to learn as much as you can while you are at school." It was an amazing moment because it was almost as if I knew exactly what she was saying at that age. From that point on I always made sure I got a clear understanding of everything before I left school. I even did my homework at school just in case I had any problems. After that day, she never said anything else about my homework. It was like she knew that I would make it happen.
But then, something happened. Later on in life, my junior year in high school, she passed away. I thought my life was over. I didn't want to do anything because everything that I was doing was for her. She was my world. I was lost for about a week and then she came to me in a dream and told me that she wanted me to live life like she taught me. From that moment on I made a vow to always treat women like they were queens because that is how I treated her. We had our ups and downs, but in the end I made sure she was taken care of. I told myself that I would be there for women even if they didn't know me. If they were down, I would be the one to pick them up. If they needed help, I would be the one to help them. Little did I know that this would cause problems for me in my personal life as well as my work life. Whenever I would see a woman down, I would buy them flowers or a card or their favorite snack; or if they got a promotion r even on Valentine’s Day if they didn't have a significant other. I was just trying to be nice. I was trying to be that, "pick me upper" for a moment. This came back to haunt me. Rumors would go around the office that I was trying to "get with" the women that I did this for. I was even accused of having an affair with a woman and they threatened to fire me. All of this was done just because I was being a nice man. But did it stop me, NOPE. I made a vow to myself and to my great grandmother. I would rather get fired for being nice than to stop being nice. That's just how she raised me, stand for what you believe in and I believed in her. Oh, and I forget to mention that my relationships. Let’s just say that the women didn't like the idea of me giving another woman flowers or anything of that nature. Did it stop me, NOPE. I made a promise and I was going to keep it.
Sometimes you have to continue to be yourself regardless of what others say or do. When you have right in your heart and others see wrong, you have to go with your heart. It may hurt and you may get ridiculed, but its well worth it when that person comes back to you and says, "Thank you. You changed my life." To me there are no rules when it comes to being nice. That's why I bought my wife shoes days before Christmas. I don't have to wait for a certain day to give her gifts. I can do it any day. I am not consumed nor will I ever e consumed by what should be when I can make it the way I want it to be. My marriage and my life are like a blank canvas everyday and I plan on painting the picture I want each morning I wake up. I refuse to wait on a day or some special occasion before I can do things that I want to do. God made the rules and those are the only rules I plan on following. As long as they are within his guidelines, I am fine. When he tells me to start giving gifts on certain occasions only, that's when I will do it...until then, I am my own rule maker in my life and in my marriage.
"Happiness is not defined by what you do, but how you feel when it's done"-K.J Swint
Saturday, December 11, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 51
When you are trying to get it, you have to do whatever it takes to get it done. You have to take advantage of the opportunities when they present themselves and when they aren't there, you have to create them. It's 6am on a Saturday and I am inside of Starbucks writing and designing web pages. Not to mention that I have to be at work @9:30am. I woke up around 3:30 am and I couldn't go back to sleep. I figured, why not take advantage of all of the extra time I have. I got up, got ready for work then cleaned up the house and off to Starbucks I went. Now let’s be real for a second. By the time I got to Starbucks, I became very, very, very sleepy. As a matter of fact, I am sleepy right now. If there is any misspelling or grammatical errors, you know why.
In order to get things done in your life you have to put in some time. Whether it be before your day gets started or after it ends. I don't care what it is. It can be your marriage-you have to make time for the one that you love, let me rephrase that-you should want to make time to spend with that special person. It can be your dream-you have to put in work to develop the idea so that it can become reality. Yes, you will have some sleepless nights and some rough times, but for some odd reason when you are sacrificing for the good, it somehow feels so good. You may complain about how early you have to get up or how little sleep you've had but you complain with a smile. It's one of those feel good pains-just like birth. It's hard on a woman for nine months or so and then it's even worse the day of the actual birth. But then once it's over with, the world seems like a different place. Life is more angelic. Life is more beautiful than it was before and they never think about the pain that they endured. All that's on their mind is how much this little person means to them-AMAZING!
This is how you have to be with everything you want in life. You have to endure the pain to enjoy the happiness of your success. Success is not defined by the amount of money you make but by the accomplished goals that you achieve. You have to do what makes you happy. Once you realize that your happiness is one of the most important things in the world, you will be able to get more done in your life. Don't wait for the first of the year to come and then start on something-START NOW! The beginning doesn't always have to have a defined starting point; it can begin right now!
"Begin your beginning before you begin your ending"-K.J Swint
In order to get things done in your life you have to put in some time. Whether it be before your day gets started or after it ends. I don't care what it is. It can be your marriage-you have to make time for the one that you love, let me rephrase that-you should want to make time to spend with that special person. It can be your dream-you have to put in work to develop the idea so that it can become reality. Yes, you will have some sleepless nights and some rough times, but for some odd reason when you are sacrificing for the good, it somehow feels so good. You may complain about how early you have to get up or how little sleep you've had but you complain with a smile. It's one of those feel good pains-just like birth. It's hard on a woman for nine months or so and then it's even worse the day of the actual birth. But then once it's over with, the world seems like a different place. Life is more angelic. Life is more beautiful than it was before and they never think about the pain that they endured. All that's on their mind is how much this little person means to them-AMAZING!
This is how you have to be with everything you want in life. You have to endure the pain to enjoy the happiness of your success. Success is not defined by the amount of money you make but by the accomplished goals that you achieve. You have to do what makes you happy. Once you realize that your happiness is one of the most important things in the world, you will be able to get more done in your life. Don't wait for the first of the year to come and then start on something-START NOW! The beginning doesn't always have to have a defined starting point; it can begin right now!
"Begin your beginning before you begin your ending"-K.J Swint
Friday, December 10, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 50
Once again, I had thoughts on my mind and I decided to get up extra early and go let them out. I am at Starbucks right now writing. I don't have to be to work until 8:30, so I am putting in an hour before I put in eight hours. It's a sacrifice that I make that I will make my life better whether it is by way of monetary value or just plain ol' happiness. Either way, I win. It's hard to lose when you are doing something you love to do because you're not doing it for money you're doing it because it makes you happy. If you just so happen to get paid for it, that's a perk.
I am kind of piggy-backing from what I posted yesterday. No one will understand until you have something to show for all the time you spent doing whatever it is that you do. But always remember, it's not about them, it's about you. Too often we try to do what everyone else is doing trying to make a quick dollar. When this happens, there is no passion in what we do, we are only looking to gain a small fortune temporarily. STOP! Stop running behind someone else's dream and start chasing your own. If you think it won't happen, guess what, IT WON'T! You have to believe in whatever you do. It's just like when you are living with your parents and want so bad to have your own home so that you can do things the way you want to do them. This is how you have to be about your dreams and what you want to do in life. People looked at me like I was crazy when I told them that I wanted to write poetry. They told me that there was no money in this market and I believed them so I stop writing it and started trying to write other things. Well, I found myself struggling to write because my niche was poetry. It was easy to me. I could sit and write four to five poems a day and more than that if I had the day off. When I couldn't write anything else, I went back to writing poetry and started believing in my work. The magic never happens until you believe in what you are passionate about. People were very receptive to my work. They loved my words and I loved them loving them.
Don't try to ride someone else's dream, create your own and make it happen. Don't let anyone tell you that what you want to do is crazy; try it to see if it is crazy for yourself. I know that I am not a millionaire and I really don't have anything to show you that I made it but one thing I do have that some millionaires don't have and that's happiness. I am happy doing what I do because what I do makes others happy and it inspires them to keep going and never give up no matter how bad it gets. Keep pushing and eventually you will find yourself pulling.
"It's easier to pull a wagon yourself rather than try to jump into one that's already moving"-K.J Swint
I am kind of piggy-backing from what I posted yesterday. No one will understand until you have something to show for all the time you spent doing whatever it is that you do. But always remember, it's not about them, it's about you. Too often we try to do what everyone else is doing trying to make a quick dollar. When this happens, there is no passion in what we do, we are only looking to gain a small fortune temporarily. STOP! Stop running behind someone else's dream and start chasing your own. If you think it won't happen, guess what, IT WON'T! You have to believe in whatever you do. It's just like when you are living with your parents and want so bad to have your own home so that you can do things the way you want to do them. This is how you have to be about your dreams and what you want to do in life. People looked at me like I was crazy when I told them that I wanted to write poetry. They told me that there was no money in this market and I believed them so I stop writing it and started trying to write other things. Well, I found myself struggling to write because my niche was poetry. It was easy to me. I could sit and write four to five poems a day and more than that if I had the day off. When I couldn't write anything else, I went back to writing poetry and started believing in my work. The magic never happens until you believe in what you are passionate about. People were very receptive to my work. They loved my words and I loved them loving them.
Don't try to ride someone else's dream, create your own and make it happen. Don't let anyone tell you that what you want to do is crazy; try it to see if it is crazy for yourself. I know that I am not a millionaire and I really don't have anything to show you that I made it but one thing I do have that some millionaires don't have and that's happiness. I am happy doing what I do because what I do makes others happy and it inspires them to keep going and never give up no matter how bad it gets. Keep pushing and eventually you will find yourself pulling.
"It's easier to pull a wagon yourself rather than try to jump into one that's already moving"-K.J Swint
Thursday, December 9, 2010
The Revitalization of my Life-Day 49
Today was one of those days where you wish everyday was like it. I went to bed early because my wife went to bed. I learned very early that if I go to bed when she goes to bed, I want have any problem getting up when she gets up before the sun comes out. After sleeping for about 5 hours I woke up with a lot of thoughts on my mind. I started thinking about ideas for my book and my blog. I couldn't sleep and I wanted to get up and write them down really quickly and go back to sleep but i knew if I got up, I would wake her up and I didn't want to do that because I did once before and it was not pretty. So I just laid there and thought about the ideas so that I wouldn't lose them. I pictured myself writing them down. I pictured myself typing them on my laptop. I even pictured myself in the scenes that I had in my head. At this point, I had it down pack. I was ready to write it all out all I needed was for her alarm to go off. I didn't know that it would be two hours before this would happen, but I made it. When she got up, I got up and I got ready for work. I didn't say one word to my wife because I thought that if I started talking that my thoughts would be distorted and I wouldn't be able to write the clear picture I had spent hours painting.
I said all of that to say that sometimes people don't know the sacrifices that you make for them. They don't see the suffering that you go through to make life simple for them. This can sometimes be frustrating especially when they are complaining about things that are not worth complaining about. You tend to start thinking about all that you have done that has gone unseen and it gets you a little heated. Here is where the test comes in and this is how you pass it. Always remember that you are not doing what you do to be seen by them but rahter by God. God is the only one that can see the unseen and hear the unheard. If you remember this, then you will be good to go. It may take you a couple of times, but practice makes perfect. It took me more than a few, but now I think I am a pro at it. Although every now and then it can get me a little frustrated but I managed to shake it when I think about all that the man upstairs has brought me through. I then smile and keep trucking. I never look at what could have been but rather what is about to become-what I can do to make it better going forward, not backwards because what's behind me can't dictate what happens in front of me-my future.
"The best time to do something is when you don't feel like doing it"-K.J Swint
I said all of that to say that sometimes people don't know the sacrifices that you make for them. They don't see the suffering that you go through to make life simple for them. This can sometimes be frustrating especially when they are complaining about things that are not worth complaining about. You tend to start thinking about all that you have done that has gone unseen and it gets you a little heated. Here is where the test comes in and this is how you pass it. Always remember that you are not doing what you do to be seen by them but rahter by God. God is the only one that can see the unseen and hear the unheard. If you remember this, then you will be good to go. It may take you a couple of times, but practice makes perfect. It took me more than a few, but now I think I am a pro at it. Although every now and then it can get me a little frustrated but I managed to shake it when I think about all that the man upstairs has brought me through. I then smile and keep trucking. I never look at what could have been but rather what is about to become-what I can do to make it better going forward, not backwards because what's behind me can't dictate what happens in front of me-my future.
"The best time to do something is when you don't feel like doing it"-K.J Swint
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